Thanksgiving

One

Ten Lepers 

The Gospel for Thanksgiving Day is about the ten lepers that were healed, but only one thanked Jesus. Now, it can be hard to be grateful in suffering or during difficult times, but what is really crazy is that we often fail to be grateful in good times. We tend to take the generosity of God and all our blessings for granted.

Look at the ten lepers. They’ve just been healed of a devastating terminal illness, and yet how many of them remember to go back and say thank you? Just one! That’s it! Something got in the way of their gratitude, and something gets in the way of ours. Something makes us forget to say to God, “Thank You,” and this failure in gratitude blocks our happiness. 

Gratitude refers to both a feeling of appreciation and to a display of thankfulness towards our benefactor. Where the display is absent the feeling will quickly evaporate. In other words, if we stop saying thank you to God then our pleasure in the things we’ve been given won’t last. Those who are not thankful soon find everything in life boring or distasteful and they can never be satisfied. That is why expressing our gratitude to God is necessary for happiness. 

Two

For what are you grateful? What have you been given? 

Well, of course, there’s what we all have in common: goods of the body (life, food, clean water, a roof over your head, safety and security), goods of the mind (friends and books and music and memory), and goods of the spirit (you have God’s divine life dwelling within you making you truly a son or daughter of God, a partaker in the divine nature, you have a knowledge of the Father’s love, and you have heaven waiting for you). God gave all this freely. Some of it cost Him a slow, torturous death, just so we could enjoy it. 

But here’s a first suggestion for cultivating gratitude: make your own list. Many of us, when we hear the phrase “count your blessings,” count like a toddler. We maybe thank God for three or four things, and then we quit.

Try this instead: take half an hour and pen and paper and write down the top thirty or forty things for which you are most grateful. Then hang on to that list for a while and post it somewhere you are forced to see it regularly. It makes a complaining or a dissatisfied attitude much harder to justify throughout the day.

Three

One could categorize the obstacles to thankfulness under two headings: dissatisfaction with our spiritual condition and dissatisfaction with our worldly condition.

On one hand, I am dissatisfied with my spiritual condition. I see my vices for which I am not proud. I should be dissatisfied with these because they ruin my happiness and the happiness of those around me. My dissatisfaction with these is good because it keeps me from being complacent. I am in need of deeper conversion and growth. But, if we focus too much on our faults, we can easily become discouraged. And that prevents us from being aware of just how much God has done for us and for the world already.

Think about the ten lepers who were healed. Only one of them came back to thank Jesus, and Christ’s disappointment is obvious, “Has none but this foreigner returned to give thanks to God?” (Luke 17:18).

I bet I know what was going through the minds of the other nine: yes, they’d been cleansed of leprosy, but now they really had a lot to get done. They’d been outcasts, completely excluded from social life. They’d have to get in touch with their families, see if their old jobs were available, figure out if they could reclaim their lands, or fix up their former houses. Imagine if you’d been away from home and work and family for who knows how long, and then in a moment you were thrown back into the world you’d thought was gone forever. You’d have a lot on your mind too.  

But one of them realized that “what I need to fix right now” was secondary to “where would I be right now without Jesus?”

We need to do that. Focus more on where you would be right now without Jesus, be grateful, and focus less on how far you still need to go. Looking at Jesus with gratitude will carry us farther and faster than constantly looking at all we need to do to be better.

Jesus, thank you for carrying me so far already. I know you will carry me the rest of the way.

Four

The second obstacle to gratitude is dissatisfaction with our worldly condition. 

If we’re always looking for more opportunities or money or more health or more security or more attention, we won’t be grateful. If we say, “I just need to make it through today, or to the weekend, or the end of the semester, or the next couple years” or “I just need to get a job, or a house, or make it to retirement” or “I just need to get the kids to bed, or get the kids ready for school, or get the kids to college, or get the kids through college,” – as though achieving any of those things would bring us peace and contentment, then we won’t be grateful.

Dissatisfaction with our earthly condition means just one thing: we’ve forgotten about heaven. When you forget about heaven, you try desperately to make this life perfect and then get frustrated when it isn’t. On the other hand, the prospect of heaven frames everything differently and balances eternal happiness against a few moments or years of suffering. How can you complain about some unpleasantness down here when trillions and trillions of years of unspeakable joy are just down the road?

And besides, when you remember heaven is waiting, it gives even more reason for gratitude for the myriad of good things down here. This world is just the waiting room, where you stay for a short while before going into the party room. And we’re used to unpleasant, uncomfortable waiting rooms. If this was a cinder-block waiting room, a cinder-block world, we’d have no reason to whine about it because we’re just waiting to get into the party room. But as it is, what a waiting room! Blue skies, good food, friends, and laughter! As St. Elizabeth Ann Seton exclaimed, “All this, and Heaven too!”

Five

Let me suggest three practices for growing in gratitude and happiness. 

First, slow down and become aware of the good you are experiencing in the present moment. The good meal, or drink or conversation, the good work you are doing, the subject you are learning, the exercise you are experiencing or the sky and trees and leaves and birds all around you. We live too fast, or we live in the future or the past but never in the present. But all the good is in the present. So slow down. Live in the present. Become aware of the good and thank God for it!

Second, always be content like St. Maryam of Bethlehem. We should always be content because we have Jesus and Heaven waiting for us. And no matter what God does or allows in your life, He does so for one reason only, to give you Jesus and Heaven.